Posts Tagged ‘Change’

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The look was the same . . . trembling lips, searching eyes, streaming tears, furrowed brows. The only difference between the grieved face of the father of slain officer, Patrick Zamarippa, and Alton Sterling’s son was the hue of their skin. The pain was identical. This was a harrowing week in America and I won’t cheapen the moment by offering political viewpoints on how we find ourselves here. I have appreciated the calls by both black and white people to love not hate, but I think we all know that Facebook statuses alone are not going to change the situation. In medicine, when patients present with medical conditions that are years in the making, a diseased lung following years of smoking, we understand that no medication no matter how powerful will simply erase the problem. The most effective solution is twenty years past its time. So, I humbly submit that the most potent forces for change were the babies born on each of the days that these men died and left holes in their families. Death can only be overcome by life. These babies do not yet know hate; we can teach them something different. We can dare to move past the natural discomfort we all feel with unfamiliarity and connect. 

And what about the rest of us? Can we change? Absolutely. But it will take something radical, beyond ourselves. When our heart has a major physical problem, we recognize that we need expert help in the form of a cardiologist or cardiothoracic surgeon. Why then would we think that spiritual heart defects are do-it-yourself projects? I realize that not all who read this may agree with my spiritual framework, but I have realized that real change in my heart requires God, who called himself “the great physician.” There is a wonderful verse in the Bible in which the Word of God is referred to as able to “pierce to the division of soul and spirit, joints and marrow.” Sounds like a surgical instrument to me. In fact, one translation describes the Word as a “surgeon’s scalpel.” I recognize that I am a surgical candidate, requiring both the operation that can transform my heart as well as the supportive care of people of goodwill thereafter. Change is possible.

I want to leave you with an image that came to me as I was praying this morning for the families of those lost. I imagined light challenging the darkness of violent acts, a light we can call carry. But I remembered that even those carrying light may still be carrying pain. So perhaps there are tears streaming down the face of light. But the light shines through those tears and, as physics teaches us, a rainbow is created. Not only is darkness dismissed, but color as beauty, not as color as divider, is introduced. This is our opportunity . . . 

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What makes you say “Yes”? I have begun my journey into the book Hidden in Plain Sight by Jan Chipchase. So far, Chipchase is interested in how we respond to new things and what leads us to adopt or reject them. He argues that adoption is not a one step process but rather a 5 step sequence: Awareness-getting to know about the existence of new things  Interest-wanting to find out more Evaluation-imagining one’s life with this new thing Testing- giving it a trial run and finally Adoption- a commitment to use. He further argues that we can be early adopters who are typically, but not always, innovators or the young and highly educated; medium stage adopters who are slightly older, perhaps less educated and late adopters or laggards and flat out rejectors.
Why do you adopt some things and reject others? The biggest factor seems to be what everyone else is doing. And why does this matter? For me, it matters because I want be part of the effort to effect widespread change in healthcare delivery and knowing what makes people behave a particular way seems central to that vision. Take a simple example: I was skeptical about joining Twitter for a long time. I wondered what was really worth saying in 140 characters. It seemed superficial and an excuse to spout fluff about bacon for breakfast (although, it should be noted that bacon is indeed delicious). Then, I found out people and organizations I respect were on it, and some of the dynamic ways it was being used and I began to reconsider my opinion. I have since joined Twitter and now integrate it in both personal and professional areas of interest. But did I simply have a limited understanding of Twitter or was my perception altered by those around me, even though the platform stayed the same? What was the “reality” of the usefulness of Twitter?
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On the subject of reality, can we take a quick detour for a moment? I heard something thought provoking this week from a cognitive scientist who argued that we often do not perceive reality as it really is (optical illusions, misread social cues etc) but that this may not actually be a bad thing in every instance. This scientist ran some evolutionary experiments on his computer and found out that accurate perception of reality did not necessarily translate to increased survival. Is there an evolutionary benefit to believing certain illusions? Are we witnessing the triumph of tact?
Truth matters of course and I don’t think anyone would argue for living in a fantasy world defined by illusion, except perhaps actors, but that’s the job;) Is it in our benefit (or others’ benefit) to know everything accurately and share everything accurately at all times? For the die-hard “tell it like it is” types, this question may seem obvious, but consider the Alzheimer’s patient who keeps forgetting her husband has died. Every time we confirm that he has, she feels fresh grief. The next time she asks “Is my husband still at the store?” Is “Yes” more compassionate than breaking the news of his death once again? What happens when reality and compassion clash?
Or consider this headline from BBC Health this week:
Virtual reality could help stroke patients recover by “tricking” them into thinking their affected limb is more accurate than it really is, researchers find.” In this case, an illusion is central to the therapeutic process . . .
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The virtual reality arm appears to move faster and more accurately than the real arm. Courtesy of BBC Health

Perhaps the guiding principle is that we should be more interested in meeting people where they are, than where they should be. This does not mean abandoning timeless ideals of truth and justice, but it does ask for a certain nuance and compassion in how we apply these lasting principles.